Please, help your family and friends abroad. Don’t assume they’re rich. Those pictures on Facebook in serene environments don’t translate to wealth. When you call them, have sufficient credit. Find out how they are doing. Listen and believe them when they say they don’t have money. Ask them how you can help. Be genuine in your intentions. There are so many stories of family and friends who have scammed and betrayed their relatives abroad. It is painful to learn that a father, brother, sister, in-law, a friend that they trusted could be dishonest with helping them to manage a business, build a house, monitor investments or simply take care of the family they left behind.
Some of them cannot even visit because they live in the shadows. Some of them work themselves to death to send whatever they have. The sum of their dream is sometimes to have something to value and return to when they come home. Don’t let short-term gain or poverty or greed motivate you to add to their suffering and heartache.
Don’t always call to request for things. Call to tell them you have something waiting for them when they arrive. If they give you a T-shirt or whatever, appreciate it. It is free and given out of love. They thought about you by adding it to their luggage. When they come to stay with you, don’t burden them with all your financial and household needs. Let them, out of their own free will, contribute. They will come again and again. They will have fond memories of their visit. You may be a reason for bigger investments that will employ millions of people.
Be a bridge and a channel of blessing to them. Be understanding. Be kind. Assume nothing about their life. Support their hustle. Being a blessing has little or nothing to do with giving money. Just your time and effort to see them succeed is enough. It can also open more doors for you and your children. Be responsible with trust. Value your integrity over things that are here today and tomorrow, they’re no more.